Wednesday, January 6, 2021

How to Help Your Teenager Deal With Grief

We’ve been fortunate enough to visit places all over the world that memorialize those who have been lost, including famous monuments, and even Arlington National Cemetary.  But, seeing loss from the perspective of a tourist is different than dealing with it in your own life, no matter your age. 


Unfortunately, far too many parents focus on making sure their young children are okay during a loss (which is important), and they don’t pay as much attention to their older kids/teenagers. 

The truth is, teens can be just as susceptible to struggling with loss. Now, more than ever, we are starting to see the mental health effects of loss on teenagers, leading to feelings of depression and anxiety. The COVID-19 pandemic has been extremely hard on teenagers who have missed out on the normalcy of school, sports, friendships, and so much more. 

You have to remember that grief isn’t always due to death. It can be caused by the loss of anything. So, if your teenager is struggling, how can you help them? Let’s go over a few helpful and effective tips. 

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Acknowledge Them

Teens want to be seen and heard. They want to be understood. That can be difficult to do under normal circumstances, but especially when they’re dealing with grief. 

One of the best things you can do is simply to make sure you’re listening. They may not always want to talk about what they’re feeling, and you shouldn’t push them. But, it’s important to open doors for conversations as often as possible. Let them know that you see them, you hear what they’re saying, and you understand how they’re feeling when they decide to express themselves. 

You don’t need to be able to give perfect advice to make a difference in your teen’s life. You know how good it feels to have someone listen to you and truly understand what you’re saying. Think about how great it will feel for your teenager to be able to confide in you and know they are really being heard. 

Be Patient and Available

As stated above, your teen may not always come to you with open arms and a willingness to talk. Forcing a conversation is one of the worst things you can do. Obviously, if you see any dangerous warning signs, confronting your teen about their feelings is important. But, if they just don’t seem like themselves or you’re not sure how they’re doing, don’t try to squeeze information out of them. 

Instead, show patience. Make sure your teenager knows that you’re available for them any time they’d like to talk. It’s easy to get caught up in your own life, especially when you’re dealing with problems. But, if your teen feels like you’re too busy or distracted, they probably won’t approach you to talk. Making yourself available is a good way to get them to open up. 

Let Them Know Their Feelings Are Normal

Although many people talk about the “stages of grief,” the truth is that the grief process is different for everyone. One of the reasons your teenager might be struggling is because they feel like what they’re experiencing isn’t “normal”. 

Make sure to validate their feelings as much as possible. Make sure they know that there isn’t one “right” way to grieve. As long as they aren’t taking part in any unhealthy behaviors or harming themselves or others, their feelings are normal. 

Work Through the Grief

If your teenager is grieving over the loss of a loved one, anything from talking about that person to creating a keepsake like memorial jewelry from Memorials.com can help them to find the strength to move on. If they’re mourning the loss of their normal lifestyle and the things they’ve missed out on, talk to them about what they would have liked to do, and how missing so many things makes them feel. 

Grief is perfectly normal in situations of loss. But, it is something that you have to work through. Rarely will feelings of grief go away on their own. Thankfully, you can be the guide for your teenager, helping them to get through those stages of grief at their own pace. When you commit to being there every step of the way, you’ll get to experience your teenager coming to life again, opening up, and finding happiness as they leave their grief behind. 

No matter what type of loss your teenager is facing, it’s important not to ignore their feelings. While you should still make sure your young children are going through the process in a healthy way, your teenager needs your help just as much. Use some of the ideas here to help them through that process and make sure they have what they need to grieve in a healthy way. 

Tuesday, December 8, 2020

Fernwood State Park in Ohio

 One of the Fall activities that we did with our children was to visit a state park in Ohio with a gun range .  Fernwood State Forest is one of the few remaining state parks with A gun range.   It’s a little bit of a drive from our location but it’s worth going there.

With the current situation of world setting, we as a parent are responsible to teach our children gun safety.   We want to teach them the proper use of guns for self protection if in case they have to defend themselves.

There are three shooting ranges in this state park, they are located southwest of the Hidden Hollow Campground. There are separate areas for pistol, rifle and trap shooting. 

   

I hope that we can go back there in the summertime next year and explore the walking trails.


When our kids were younger, my son was scared about guns but now he understands the importance of  gun for self defense.   We will continue to practice and make ourselves comfortable in handling guns for the sake of protecting ourselves when time comes .  You never know what this crazy world will bring us so it’s better to be ready at all times.

Friday, September 25, 2020

Cross-Country Routes Across The US That Will Blow Your Mind

The US is famous for road trips. You might consider it the home of such things. After all, it was this country, more than any other, that popularized the highway and built a culture around the private motor vehicle. 

For many people in the world, the concept of spending a holiday in your car, van or RV, seems a little odd. But once you’ve experienced the vastness and variety that a country like America has to offer, it’s not hard to get a grasp on why it is so popular. 

In this post, we look at some of the most iconic routes across the US that will blow your mind. All of them are perfect for a road trip, whether you’re traveling with family or friends. 

The Great River Road



The Mississippi is America’s greatest river, literally splitting the continental landmass in two. It’s such an essential feature of the landscape that it has made its way into our daily vocabulary. People will say things like “I live in the greatest town east for the Mississippi” or “we have the largest emporium of mattresses west of the Mississippi.”

Your road trip, therefore, should attempt to discover what all the fuss is about. The Great River Road flanks the Mississippi, taking you through a variety of wildlife reserves. It starts in the north in places like Rosedale and Greenville. As you travel south, the cuisine begins to change, and you get into fried food territory. Then eventually, you wind up in Louisiana and the eclectic city of New Orleans. 

Route 66


Route 66 is the classic America road trip. People typically start at Lake Michigan and then make their way across the great American west to Los Angeles. 

The best way to do Route 66 is in an RV. Sites like kirklandrvsales.com show you the type of equipment you’ll need. Remember, unless you drive flat out, it’ll take you a couple of weeks to traverse the entire route. So unless you carefully plan your stops along the way, you’ll need facilities for cooking, showering, and sleeping. 

Along the way, you’ll discover things like America’s oldest church, the world’s largest rocking chair and diners, motels, and places where you can watch outdoor movies. 

The Loneliest Road, US-50


If you really want to get out in the middle of nowhere, you might want to check out the Loneliest Road, which also goes by the name of US-50. Going cross-country, you start in Ocean City, Maryland, and then follow the classic trail through the Rockies all the way to Sacramento, the oldest settlement in California. 

Along the way, you’ll experience some incredible scenery, according to gapyear.com, including the Great Basin National Park and Nevada beach. Be sure to take your camera with you. 

The High Road

The High Road might not be one of the longest road trips in America, but it is one of the most spectacular. The route has a Hispanic twist, being so far south, taking you close to historic villages like Truchas and Penasco.

Thursday, July 2, 2020

Kennywood 2019

 A friend gave us 4 free tickets to Kennywood last year, thanks Linda!  It's been years since we last went to Kennywood.  Although it is an annual  fundraising thing for the school, we don't buy  anymore because the kids are not really  into going, they're probably got tired of the same place, thus lost interest.  Anyway, since it was free, we went.  It was different, the kids are no longer super excited with the rides as they used to.
 I am glad we were able to go though, with this pandemic erupting this year, we chose to stay home and do home improvement projects rather than going on places.
 The thing I don't like amusement park is the long queue. You're basically  wasting time falling in line just to get to a ride that doesn't even last long.
 Our son is not really crazy with rides, he prefers to hang out with me and wait for my husband and daughter while they finish with the rides they go into.
 It's funny because now that they are in a good height where they go on a lot of rides, they are no longer interested.  They used to be disappointed when they don't meet the  required height for the ride.
 My daughter is the adrenaline junkie so she went on few rides before we went home. 
Hot weather can really suck out  the energy out of you so we didn't stay  very long.  It was good enough to enjoy a few rides and get out of the house for few hours.  
Looking at these pictures, our children have grown so much in a year.  They are now taller than me and  almost at my husband's height.  Our son became a teen in January and our daughter will turn fifteen in 5 days. Oh how time flies, her freshman year went by so fast.  This will be the last year for our son at St. Joseph, son he will join his sister at Madonna High School.

Tuesday, June 30, 2020

Iwo Jima Memorial #DCtrip2019 #WashingtonDC

After our rainy visit to the Arlington national cemetery, we dropped by at the  U.S. Marine Corps War Memorial  or more commonly known as the Iwo Jima Memorial.  Seeing how the soldier guards just keep on marching irregardless of the rain at the Tomb of the Unknown, I had so much emotion after that and this monument or statue intensified it.  This to me, right here, is  perhaps one of the most moving memorials in the DC region.  I wasn't born in the US but the country where I came from was part of the US war history so I came to appreciate all of their sacrifices.
This world famous statue is based on the iconic photograph taken by an AP (Associated Press) photographer Joe Rosenthal.  It  depicts the six Marines who raised of the second American flag at Iwo Jima in the Japanese Volcano Islands on February 23, 1945. This memorial is dedicated to all the fallen Marines and their comrades  from other services of all wars   who fell fighting beside them.  President Dwight D. Eisenhower spearheaded  the dedication of this memorial on November 10, 1954.
This memorial is located outside of Arlington National Cemetery in Arlington Ridge Park in Virginia, just across the Potomac River from Washington, DC.   It said that during  summer time on Tuesday evenings, the U.S. Marine Corps band performs free hour-long drum and bugle concerts called Sunset Parades. I wish we would have seen it but not lucky enough since it wasn't included in our tour.  

I wonder what these kids are thinking seeing this piece of historic monument?
Philippines was mentioned there too.

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