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Tuesday, November 24, 2009

Handling Conflict with Love


There's only one that I could remember that we had a mild understanding. When we were done renovating the house that we bought, my husband and I agreed to finally moved in. The problem was telling Dad about it. My husband did not want to leave Dad because we lived there for over a year and leaving him means that he will be alone again.

But anyhow, I kept making so makulit to him and so he snapped and told me "OKay start packing" with an angry voice. I was hurt and being so maarte and emo that I am, I cried and cried while I was packing our stuff.

I wasn't talking to him the whole time I was packing so he humbly told me he was sorry and hugged me. That was the only time we had a misunderstanding. The rest is just about his farts hehehe but we never argue or something like that. When one of us is mad, we just don't talk, we let our anger pass by first before we talk about it.

I am glad that my husband is a very understanding and loving man. I really don't like making arguments. For me, it is a waste of energy and it is a stain on your relationship. I always pray that God will keep us this way until our time comes.


24 travelers' comments:

ellen said...

Hello! Finding a way to reaching out. God Bless!

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Chris said...

wow, your post is up early! :D glad that your hubby is a very loving man as you described...

how are you? ready to go back na? :D

jodi said...

alam ko sis mag la last yan kasi compatible kayo, sabi mo nga yun lang ang misunderstanding nyo mag asawa at mula noon wala na di ba? swerte mo kay hubby and syempre swerte rin sya sayo. sis maraming salamat sa lahat ng dalaw na di ka nagsasawa. tats ako dun, salamat uli smart blogger
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Mom of Four said...

Aba, ang aga nga ng post natin ah, ako nga wala pa, kasi kaka Tuesday pa lang dito, later pa ako mag post, ehehehe.. i link mo na lang sa Mcklinky tong site mo kapag nakapag post na ako, hahaha!

Mom of Four said...

Ngek, nakalimutan ko mag comment sa post, hehehe.

Sus, eh halos di naman pala misunderstanding yang sa inyo, actually, ang misunderstanding naman di dapat lumala basta need lang na kapag galit ang isa, tahimik lang ang isa di ba? once na pareho kaung galit at mainit ang ulo, eh sigawan at away ang mangyayari..Buti nalang mabait si John at saka ikaw rin mabait..hehehe.

anne said...

by the way, at least ure husband reached out to you girl so to make up the misunderstanding.

anne said...

hehehe ang aga naman nito I thought late na ako, but when I check the calendar tues pa pala naun

Lulu said...

nice to know na di din kayo nag aaway lagi ni hubby mo... kami din we only have couple of slight mis understanding ... we never had a big fight and yes I am the one that is sensitive and has to cry... pero sya lagi nag sosorry... kasi lagi akong tama wahehehe

seriously hubby and i is somewhat like you and john... we don't let our anger last if there is...

Mel Alarilla said...

Napakaganda nga ng pagsasama nyo ni John para mabahiran lang ng simpleng misunderstanding. Huwag nyong ipagpapabukas ang mga misunderstanding na yan at baka mauwi sa pagtigas ng puso dahil sa pride. Ayusin nyo ano mang sigalot bago matulog. Iyan palagi ang inaabangan ng kaaway para sirain ang pagsasama ng isang ulirang pamilya. Mapalad ka dahil napakamaalalahanin ni John at very humble para palagi kang suyuin. Pagingatan mo lang na di maispoiled ka, lol. Pero salbahe ka rin friend dahil ibinulgar mo sa buong mundo yung nagiisang baho ni John, hehehe, lol. Nangangalingasaw tuloy ang buong blog world pag name mention mo ito, lol. Bistado na tuloy ng buong mundo si John, hehehe, lol. Pero bilib ako sa inyong pamilya. Larawan kayo ng isang model family na nagmamahalan. Yun siguro ang saysay ng pagbablog nyo. Nagagamit ito upang maparangalan ang Panginoon sa inyong pagsasama. Marami ang naiinspire (kasama na ako) sa mala fairy tale at mala telenobela nyong istorya. Thanks for the feel good post. God bless you all always.

Clarissa said...

Misunderstanding is normal to couples--nasa couples na rin kung papaano nila maiha-handle ang relationship nila.Good for both of you coz you both understand each other.

Pinaymama said...

i can relate to it, we're the same we don't talk that much too when we were both angry...

Thanks for sharing!

eds said...

naku mahirap nga nman magpaalam karaka-raka.. pero ciempre gustong gusto mo na magsarili na kau kaya nman excited ka na maglipat. kung ako cguro nasa katayuan mo eh baka ganyan din ako kaexcited sau. masarap magsimula sa bahay na ikaw ang magdedecorate at yun bang free kang gawin ang lahat. hay naku how i wish may sariling bahay na rin kami ni habibi,.. great post.

eto pala ang version ko >> http://mydigihome.info/?p=271

Chie Wilks said...

oh so sweet ni hubby dear mo sis Rose...heheh natatawa ako sa "being so maarte and emo" ganyan lang talaga ang mga gurls pag ngtampo..buti nalang at mababait ang mga hubby dear natin at cla pa ang susuyo...

sweet_shelo said...

You are so lucky sis that your hubby has patience and napaka understanding.. So blessed indeed!!!

Cecile said...

Pareho pala tayo, Rose; ganyan din ako pag galit most of the time, di nagsasalita, nananahimik ako, pag handa na ako magsalita...ako na ang kakausap sa kanya; kasi pag kinulit ako eh baka kung ano pa nasabi ko na pag sisisihan ko later on.

Dhemz said...

haba na ng pila dito sis ah....:)

pretty well said sis...I don't remember our first fight actually...am not really sure...have to think about it....lol!

just like mami lulu...gusto ko din parati akong tama....sobra kasi akong stubborn minsan....kahit kasalanan ko si hubby parin nag sosorry.......si greg kasi d makatulog pag d kami magka bati...ako bahala si batman...tigas kasi ng ulo ko eh....we are so blessed na d tarantado tong mga asawa natin...hehehe!

thanks for sharing sis...night night...hope to chat with you bukas...mwah!

Yami said...

Hi sis, it took me 10 years to get here, joke lang. ewan ko ba parang gusto ko ng magpahinga sa blog, napapagod na ako....

Emo ka rin pala ehehe, hoy ha sometimes its works kapag medyo quiet ka at crayola kapag may spat kayo makukuha mo loob niya at siya ang unang lalapit sayo. pero minsan sis, in my case, nakakahalata kaya instead of making amo, hinahayaan lang ako. hehe.

kelan ang lipad niyo back to the states? mamimiss kita. :)

Beth said...

you are so blessed to have a hubby like John. He's a blessing talaga.
He really loves you...

Jona said...

It's ok fusing it with CC. I also intend to join that meme if time permits.
Moving is really a hectic event.
Thank you for your time Rose!

Rossel said...

kami rin isang misunderstanding lang ang natatandaan ko. after that natuto rin ako na di pala dapat lumayas. lol! dapat pag-usapan ang problema kapag pareho ng hindi mainit ang ulo.

Manang Kim said...

We pinays are just too sensitive kung tutuusin madali tayong mag interpret eh minsan mali mali naman hehe...thanks for sharing mommy rose!

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ShY said...

Ako rin bakla, I don't like away, kaya kung nag aaway kami ill pack my things kaagad para hiwalay para wala ng away next time hehehehehe.

Buti kayo kasundo ang isat isa. we can't really blame sa sobrang emo natin, hindi kasi sanay waaaa.

acmumcee said...

aww!!! katuwa naman ate rose at yan lang ang misunderstanding sa relationship nyo.. ako kase, I count everything as misunderstanding kase literal kong iniisip na kaya kame nagkaganun kase hindi kame nagkaintidihan.. so super dami na talaga.. but so petty..

it feels so good when hubby approaches and say sorry noh? ako i always feel guilty.. kase kahit ako may kasalan, sya parin ang lumalapit.. hehe.. sana di sila magsawa..

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